Great question. Is it eating your avocado toast every morning? Is it getting your monthly soul cycle membership? Is it daily affirmations? Is it building healthy relationships?
As defined by google, wellness is an active process of becoming aware of and making choices toward a healthy and fulfilling life.
But what is a healthy and fulfilling life? Couldn’t what fulfills you be different for someone else? I believe wellness is a matter of perspective.
Actually, everything in life is a matter of your perspective.
Stephen R. Covey, author of “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change” says it best. “We see the world, not as it is, but as we are — or, as we are conditioned to see it”.
I have my own perspective on what wellness means to me. It’s the basis of why I started this blog. Let me offer you my perspective and once you finish reading, let me know if you agree or not in the comments below.
So I’ll ask it again…wellness. What is it?
I believe wellness is a human right. I believe that wellness should be something society teaches us to prioritize. I think wanting to check in with our feelings and share our feelings should be normalized. I think wanting to live in a faith based society versus a fear based society should be the goal.
Wellness means people living a life with purpose and the greater good for others is at the forefront.
Wellness is understanding our world’s health risks and coming together to get it back to a healthy place.
I want to put the “we” back into wellness. Wellness for all.
But how do we achieve wellness for all?
Jen Sincero, author of “You are a Badass” says it best. “One of the best things you can do to improve the world is to improve yourself”.
This is where KJ TODAY comes in.
Let’s break it down, beginning with “KJ”.
Simply put, it’s my nickname. A self-proclaimed nick name. A nick name that has evolved into somewhat of an alter ego. I know, it’s not as cool as the Queen Bee’s “Sasha Fierce” but it gets the job done.
Any time I am nervous, scared, worried, anxious, really anything deemed as negative, I put myself in KJ’s shoes. What would she do? Would KJ be afraid to go to an event herself? HELL NO. Would KJ be afraid to speak on a panel in front of hundreds, thousands even? NOT A CHANCE. Would KJ be ashamed of her body and all that it offers her? NONSENSE.
If you don’t already have an alter ego, create one. Step into a new identity that you always knew you could channel and fucking run with it!
This fierce, confident, doesn’t take no for an answer KJ offers her perspective on this whole wellness thing. It’s who I am to my core – my deepest beliefs, values and inner voice that wanted a place to share her thoughts and opinions via an online platform…and therefore, the blog was born!
Finally, on a more personal note, KJ stands out for me. The “j” in my name is unique to where I am originally from. My full name (Katja) is typically spelled either Katia or Katya depending on what country you’re from but because of my European decent, they spell it with a J (this spelling is most popular in Germany, the Netherlands, Flanders and Scandinavia). Because I was born in Germany, have endless memories and family from there, this is a constant reminder of who I am, where I’m from and why I’m doing this all in the first place.
Alright, enough with KJ. Moving on to “TODAY”.
A simple word, yes. Although very powerful.. Let me explain.
I broke it down into 3 pillars that best represent just how powerful TODAY really is:
Past, Present, Future
Wayne Dyer says it best: “Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed”
This quote reinforces the concept of living today. So why is it so hard? We form identity and limiting beliefs based off experiences in our past. You can also read about it here.
Past –> “Oh, I failed once when writing a paper. Literally, it had a fat F at the top of my paper.” That moment haunted me from ever writing again. I formed the limiting belief when I was 14 that “I’m not a writer”
Or, we worry about the future based off of that past experience.
Future –> “What if I write this paper and I get an F again? My parents would kill me!”
So what happens if we only focus on today? What does KJ want to do right now in this very moment? When we only think of today, we’re not thinking about the regret from our past. When we only think of today, we’re not thinking about the fear of tomorrow. We simply can just be.
Present –> Sits down and writes the goddamn paper.
Why do you care?
As a byproduct of living in the present, I’ve found more clarity of thought. We tend to feel more calm, make better decisions, make healthier choices and we can invest more into our relationships. With a present mindset, we set the base for finally feeling aligned with our inner gut instinct and do things that we truly want to do. This present mindset is also known as mindfulness.
What is mindfulness? Mindfulness is “a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique”.
This is great and all but how do I force myself to be more mindful? I won’t bore you with the details but this article does a great job of offering some ways to practice mindfulness. My personal favorite is meditation and yoga.
Why do you care?
When you practice mindfulness, you get to enjoy the day. You notice the birds chirping in the morning because you’re not scrolling social media first thing. You notice how your body feels: aches, pains or what it needs. You notice the stranger you pass by every day as you walk to work and make eye contact for the first time. When you practice mindfulness, you actually are living in the present moment. When you live in the present, you become happier. You become calm. You become grateful. You become ZEN AF. When you’re in this state of mind, you naturally can make better choices.
This is the most important of all three. Hence my tagline “Where Daily Choices Matter the Most”. This is where action comes in to play. This is where you recognize and own your own power. You get to choose how you feel and who you want to be.
I choose to work out. I choose to eat my veggies. I choose to read 10 pages a day. I choose to journal. I choose to call a family member. I choose to meditate.
Why do you care?
These are small actions, yes. But they compound. They build your confidence. They prepare you for when big actions are needed…
Big actions like starting a travel blog with a best friend. Big actions like taking a promotion with a $20K raise attached. Big actions like moving across the country to a new city. Big actions like getting your Life Coach Certification. Big actions like starting a book club, starting a wellness blog, going to events solo, going on solo trips, speaking to a crowd of hundreds, and so on.
Do me a favor. I want you to think of the most successful, influential person that you look up to. Take away all the money, cars, houses, clothes and whatever else that appears “successful” to you and ask yourself, what do they do on a daily basis? What are their habits? What is the system they’ve created that allows them to afford and enjoy all the nice things in life?